I’ve come to realize that there are a lot of people that really don’t know what being celibate means. I remember watching Dancing With the Stars and Brandy said that she had been celibate for a long time. However had she been celibate or is it that she just didn’t have a man or a man around that she wanted to give her goodies too? Not having sex because you don’t have the right suiters isn’t celibacy. Celibacy is when you make a conscious decision not to have sex until you get married. For some it can be because of their religious or spiritual beliefs and for others it can be that they are tired of giving their goodies away and they understand their value. When I began my journey to celibacy it was a bit of both reasons. Because of my spiritual belief I understood that God wanted me (us) to wait until we were married and I wanted to honor that.

Also because I value relationships I didn’t want to be anybodies friend with benefits or vice versa, that leaves you empty inside. There are women out there that have the “I have needs and I have to get mine” mentality and will try to detach their emotions so they don’t get attached. Well let me let you in on a little secret, women are programmed to get emotional and catch feelings. Sex a lot of the times brings out the  feeling of passion, love and desire that we really would love to have. However if you are just having sex with someone and they give you that feeling it’s only for a moment. Who wants to have moments all the time? Now you’re at work thinking about this amazing night, developing feelings in your heart (what you meditate on gets embedded in your heart), now you’re wanting more from this man that clearly only wants sex. At the beginning you were cool with the friends with benefits situation, but now you want to flip the script because feelings are involved.

Once again who wants to take themselves through all of that heartache and headache? Being celibate takes discipline and can be stressful at times because we are human and sex is a natural desire. The key is deciding what’s important to you. Is having a moment(s) with someone that clearly isn’t trying to wife you are do anything else other than sex you that important to you? Or making the choice to wait until you have a ring on it? Everyone is different but I do caution you to realize that every time you lay down with someone every spirit and partner that they’ve ever had, you’re laying down with them too! Have you every had sex with someone then started to feel depressed, crying for no reason, sad, doing things that you wouldn’t normally do? What happened is the spirits/issues that the other person are carrying are now transfered over to you and vice versa. I know it sounds a bit out landish, but I challenge you to go back and look over your past and see if you’ve ever felt this way after sex. In closing I would caution you to stop the random sex trying to substitute that with the love that you desire. You are better off mentally, physically and let’s not forget the risk of catching an incurable disease keeping your goodies to yourself to save you the drama.

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Last year I released a book entitled “Broken But Not Bound the Making of Me“. The book is all about my life story and how I overcame molestation, rape, abortion, living in a shelter and became the business woman and empowerment speaker I am today!  My goal and purpose in life is to inspire others to CHOOSE to LIVE in spite of what their past. My motto is ” you may be broken but NEVER bound”.  A young lady purchased my book and received it this past weekend. She sent me a message on facebook saying that she wasn’t leaving the house until the book was finished that day. She finished just as she said and her review blew me away. I thank God for trusting me to be a vessel that he could use to help empower his people.

“What kind of a woman bares her whole soul, tells all of her darkest secrets, and runs the risk of the world looking down on her?

What kind of a woman opens her closet and reveals her skeletons for everyone to see and judge?

I will tell you, the kind of a woman who has been called by The Almighty God to do great things. The kind of a woman who is no longer bound but is set free!

Free from the worlds shallow acceptance and free to be embraced by her Heavenly Fathers love.

The kind of a woman who is not ashamed and knows her worth!

The kind of a woman who understands her life’s purpose, and carries it out while she displays God’s beauty.

The pain, hurt, disappointment, betrayal, and abuse in Aprils life has lost its power. God now uses it and works it together for His good and His glory, (Healing and freeing others).

April Mason’s book had to be written; her story had to be told. I realize that it took a lot to sit down and form the sentences that equaled paragraphs of pain, this was no easy task. My heart aced as I wondered if she had to relive some of the agony when she visited those horrible memories.

I appreciate each page and each word that she poured out so that her readers can find the healing that they (we) need. It was difficult to continue reading at times; I had to sit the book down for a bit. Her hurt repeatedly jumped off of the pages and into my soul, yet and still, I had to read on!

In my opinion, there isn’t a person on this earth that should not read this book! Men, women, teenagers, and especially parents! There is no way that you can see what God has done through the life of this woman and not be changed! No, no one should refuse to read a story that will not only rock your world, but it will transform your life!”

Lisa A. Gore

Self-Published Author

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Being self employed for almost 10 years I realize that it is so easy to get caught up in the “trying to make it happen” mode. Entrepreneurs spend so much time developing, preparing, tweaking, branding, marketing, promoting, networking and the list goes on! We can sometimes overlook the love part of our lives! There is no denying that it takes a SPECIAL person to deal with a TRUE entrepreneur! We are very creative, driven and the NORM just doesn’t work well for us. Speaking for myself, I found myself on the go so much that I didn’t make time for me. Then had the nerve to complain that I was single…come on now April, for real?

Positioning yourself doesn’t mean you just say “I want to be in a relationship” with your mouth, but also requires you to rearranging your life so someone can fit in it! Long gone are the days of “humph a man better get in where he fits in”. That is the wrong mindset and attitude to have when you desire a mate. I’ve made some small adjustments that have proven to yield major results! Number one, I go to bed at a decent hour instead of trying to stay up all night getting things done. Second, I pay attention to my surroundings and not just look for business opportunities.

If you really pay attention to your surroundings you will be surprised at what you’ve been missing out on. Thirdly, and one of the most important things you must do when you want to get the love you want, connect with someone that BALANCES you! I had a guy tell me one day “there you go talking about business again”. I didn’t realize how much business oozed out of me until he said it! He then went on to say “ok no business talk today, let’s makes it a fun day”… I liked and needed that! Take time out for love and run the business…DON’T LET THE BUSINESS RUN YOU!

April

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